Re-emerging Again !

December 19, 2008

Wow, So much has happened to me during the last nine months, a little like birthing a baby. I remember when I was widowed people swore, life will change, it will get better. And, indeed it has.  The changes started to come as I eased my way away from my identity as “widow” and tried [...]

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How long, How long…

April 23, 2008

As I look back on my period of grief, I remember being incredibly upset with myself that after four months I wasn’t better. My grief continues even today, but in a much different form. Now it is an honoring of what was and a celebration of what is. Yesterday I spent time with a new [...]

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Transitions and Adjustments…

April 21, 2008

Whew, a whirlwind time. Since January 2008 my life has been a series of wonderful adventures, but being way from home takes a toll. I recall reading “somewhere” that when a person loses a spouse they lose “half” of their memory. Makes sense in so many ways because as a “team” you rely on the [...]

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Funeral Food and Not Grieving Alone !

March 27, 2008

To my delight I got to experience a for real “Southern” memorial. We celebrated the life of a magnificient man who lived a full, challenging, and memorable life. Indeed we were celebrating a life well lived. Certainly not an “easy” life, but a life that was constructed by a dynamic man who turned strife into [...]

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Women 45-55 increase in suicide: Lack of Community?

February 29, 2008

I have failed to accept the fact that I have a virus. Yup, a simple virus, I am sleeping more, a little more cranky, and well, just “not up to par.” So, this a.m. when I got up (late) I turned on The View. The “ladies” were talking about the increase in suicide rates in [...]

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In Your Face, death, brings you up short !

February 29, 2008

I have spent the last couple of weeks dealing with the impending death of a wonderful 89 year old man. I had the pleasure of spending time with him a week ago and even then the inevitable was close. I remember just a year ago hearing his tales of WWII as a prisoner of war, and then, [...]

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Baby Steps Toward Change…

February 22, 2008

Why is it when we are going through grief and loss, mourning we either want to change everything, or keep everything “as it was.” One of the major challenges of grief is knowing, what are the rules? Much like parenting, no one gave us the book ! Drat. I know for me I wanted to take possession [...]

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Grief/Transition: Not something you “fake”

February 20, 2008

Realizing over the past couple of weeks how challenging transitions are. I remember one of you questioning the “new normal”, ah, what a comforting term, but so challenging to meet. I remember the challenge of going through the transition from being a couple, to being a Mom and Dad. I remember the transition of being [...]

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Traveling…

February 18, 2008

Whew, I have MISSED this process…can’t wait to fill you all in on the last two weeks. Had a wonderful time at the Winter Wellness/Positive Psychology Forum in Sedona, and then accompanied a friend to visit a dying parent… Through all of these adventures I learned the power in patience, the willingness to go with [...]

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Grievers/Transitioners: How Trusting is the World ?

February 4, 2008

Today is a discouraging day…some days are like that. I have gotten feedback that my blog is too personal, not professional/distant enough. Well, I can hear my deceased Mom, “tell them to go sit on a tack”….My deceased father would say something far more colorful…. When we lose something in our life and transition to [...]

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