Here’s a GREAT post I received this a.m. from a very honest widow. I share it here for us all. The point: THERE ARE NO RULES. Ah, if only there were rules to follow.
Its been a little over 3 mos since my husband died on a mission trip to Zambia…tragic to be sure, we were married for 23 years. It was a terrible shock. But I have to say that we are doing very well, we have moments, not days of grief. I loved him much, but because of a traumatic crash 14 years ago that severely & permanently injured my child who is 17 now, the stress, the emotions did take their toll on our marriage, it was comfortable but not passionate, we tag teamed alot taking care of the house and the kids so our intimacy suffered. I am ready to find that now…sounds crazy being so soon…what the heck are the rules!?!
There are studies which address the lack of rules for grief. There is no such thing as a “good widow” a “lazy widow” and “uncaring widow” We do grief like we do life…at our own pace and time.
My response to this women was CELEBRATE your life now. Now is your time to REINVENT yourself, RECLAIM the years you may have lost.
The cool thing about being widow…you really can’t do it wrong, well, unless you want to please all the people who think they know what the rules are !
