Comments on: Widows: Reach out through the Despair ! http://donotgrievealone.com/2009/05/06/widows-reach-out-through-the-despair/ Happiness Boot Camp For Those In Transition Wed, 02 Sep 2009 04:04:15 +0000 hourly 1 By: Beth Waddel http://donotgrievealone.com/2009/05/06/widows-reach-out-through-the-despair/comment-page-1/#comment-598 Beth Waddel Tue, 30 Jun 2009 03:08:08 +0000 http://donotgrievealone.com/?p=91#comment-598 deb, Oftentimes I wonder if people have really "forgotten" our lost loved one, or if they are afraid it they mention him we will suddenly remember our loss. As crazy as that sounds, I think some people actually do believe that talking about the loved one re-awakens our loss. (Crazy, for sure) Thankfully because of the internet there are other sources of support which are available online which may be more comfortable for you at this time. The support is crucial, however you get it. Taking time to be alone can be healing, but I know for me the isolation became toxic and my own despair became unsettling. Feel free to reach out to me. I would be happy to problem solve this with you. In the meantime, take care....there are many of us out there, honest. Beth deb,

Oftentimes I wonder if people have really “forgotten” our lost loved one, or if they are afraid it they mention him we will suddenly remember our loss. As crazy as that sounds, I think some people actually do believe that talking about the loved one re-awakens our loss. (Crazy, for sure)

Thankfully because of the internet there are other sources of support which are available online which may be more comfortable for you at this time.

The support is crucial, however you get it. Taking time to be alone can be healing, but I know for me the isolation became toxic and my own despair became unsettling.

Feel free to reach out to me. I would be happy to problem solve this with you.

In the meantime, take care….there are many of us out there, honest.

Beth

]]> By: Deb http://donotgrievealone.com/2009/05/06/widows-reach-out-through-the-despair/comment-page-1/#comment-597 Deb Tue, 30 Jun 2009 02:42:02 +0000 http://donotgrievealone.com/?p=91#comment-597 I wish it was easy to reach out locally...this deep sadness can only be understood by someone else that has experienced it, as a pretty quiet shy individual I find it difficult to reach out, especially now 362 days from his passing and NO ONE seems to miss him but me and a few of my immediate family...it is a very long lonely journey, easy to be a hermit and although I know he would want me to go on, it is more difficult than I ever imagined... no children and a new location to be near some of my familly...alone amidst 400,000...never dreamed my life would be this... I wish it was easy to reach out locally…this deep sadness can only be understood by someone else that has experienced it, as a pretty quiet shy individual I find it difficult to reach out, especially now 362 days from his passing and NO ONE seems to miss him but me and a few of my immediate family…it is a very long lonely journey, easy to be a hermit and although I know he would want me to go on, it is more difficult than I ever imagined… no children and a new location to be near some of my familly…alone amidst 400,000…never dreamed my life would be this…

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