I am the boss of myself: Setting and Achieving Goals

Author: Beth Waddel
22.10.2007

One of our family favorite expressions is “I am the boss of myself.” The origin of the comment was when my youngest daughter learned the power of being in charge of her body and self (age 2 1/2) That sense of self empowerment has gotten us all far…and is reinforced by the notion that half of our emotional well-being is due to genetics, and 10 % is the result of life circumstances (economic status race, sex) then a full 40% is under individual control.

The role of HAPPINESS BOOT CAMP is to strengthen that 40% that is under our control. We may not be able to control 60%, but the 40% we are in control of we can make the most of.

In Positive Psychology Coaching (Biswas-Diener & Dean, 2007) they report that there are three areas that are both UNDER OUR PERSONAL CONTROL as well as CRUCIAL TO HAPPINESS, those three areas are:

  1. Goals
  2. Social relationships
  3. Cognitive Habits

Looking at the book Happier (Tal Ben-Sharar), is certainly “grist” for the goal-setting mold.  I will digress, and get back to Sharar.

We are all familiar with the SMART method of goal setting.

Goals must be:

1. Specific

2. Measureable

3. Achieveable

4 Realistic

5. Timely

Stay tuned, because, I am going to introduce a new paradigm for GOAL SETTING which is great. If I wasn’t running off to do something this afternooon, I would post it now…stay tuned for tonight.

Start by keeping a daily chart of the things you do…is your day measured by HAVE TO’s, WANT TO’s, is there a balance. The goal of this next section will be to INCREASE HAPPINESS by INCREASING YOUR PLAN to incorporate activities which lead to RENEWAL…a great antidote to burnout.

More soon,

smoochers,

Beth


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    October 22nd, 2007 at 3:44 pm

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  2. Beth Waddel Says:
    October 22nd, 2007 at 6:20 pm

    Wow,
    This is a first for me…don’t know how all this works, but it’s a post from a “stranger”, so cool, the message is spreading…

    Beth

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