Comments on: Positive Psychology…hmmmm…a.k.a. common sense? http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/10/04/positive-psychologyhmmmmaka-common-sense/ Happiness Boot Camp For Those In Transition Thu, 04 Dec 2008 22:26:27 +0000 By: JC http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/10/04/positive-psychologyhmmmmaka-common-sense/#comment-151 JC Fri, 28 Dec 2007 12:51:42 +0000 http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/10/04/positive-psychologyhmmmmaka-common-sense/#comment-151 How I wish Grandma Millie was alive today and living close by. I would love to smother her with love and immerse myself in her wisdom. After my mother died, when I was a child, I had strong women in my life who taught me many wonderful lessons. But it's not the same as having one or more female family role models. My father was good at getting my sister and me down to the southern part of the state to visit our grandmas, grandpa, uncle, aunts and cousins, but it wasn't like having them close at hand for life's everyday ups and downs. My dad's mother might have been instrumental in helping me understand her son. He was a great father in many ways, but very guarded about his youth and about his life prior to his marriage to my mother. I would have loved to tap into the wealth of knowledge, history (personal and otherwise) and family lore personified in my grandmother. My spiritual belief is that we will all be reunited someday in Heaven. I asked my dad if he believed in God and/or life in the hereafter. He said no. I told him that I did, but that I could be wrong. He replied, "You probably are." It made me laugh out loud. When he passed away, I couldn't help smiling and thinking how surprised he'd be as soon as "he got there". A short time later, I had a dream in which I was in an office or clinic or something, and when I stepped through a door, I saw my dad sitting on a bench "waiting to be served". He turned around and said to me, "You made it!" When I woke up, I smiled again with a tear in my eye because I took that as a sign that he wanted me to know that he'd "made it to the other side" and verified that I had "found him there". God bless, love, JC How I wish Grandma Millie was alive today and living close by. I would love to smother her with love and immerse myself in her wisdom.

After my mother died, when I was a child, I had strong women in my life who taught me many wonderful lessons. But it’s not the same as having one or more female family role models. My father was good at getting my sister and me down to the southern part of the state to visit our grandmas, grandpa, uncle, aunts and cousins, but it wasn’t like having them close at hand for life’s everyday ups and downs.

My dad’s mother might have been instrumental in helping me understand her son. He was a great father in many ways, but very guarded about his youth and about his life prior to his marriage to my mother. I would have loved to tap into the wealth of knowledge, history (personal and otherwise) and family lore personified in my grandmother.

My spiritual belief is that we will all be reunited someday in Heaven. I asked my dad if he believed in God and/or life in the hereafter. He said no. I told him that I did, but that I could be wrong. He replied, “You probably are.” It made me laugh out loud. When he passed away, I couldn’t help smiling and thinking how surprised he’d be as soon as “he got there”. A short time later, I had a dream in which I was in an office or clinic or something, and when I stepped through a door, I saw my dad sitting on a bench “waiting to be served”. He turned around and said to me, “You made it!” When I woke up, I smiled again with a tear in my eye because I took that as a sign that he wanted me to know that he’d “made it to the other side” and verified that I had “found him there”.

God bless, love,
JC

]]> By: LS http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/10/04/positive-psychologyhmmmmaka-common-sense/#comment-18 LS Sun, 07 Oct 2007 18:48:50 +0000 http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/10/04/positive-psychologyhmmmmaka-common-sense/#comment-18 I do believe your Grandma Millie was a wise person. Doing nothing doesn't improve the situation, but some kind of action usually helps. Unfortunately even unhealthy actions help for a bit, but healthy things and thoughts not only help at the moment (even if only a little) they build and keep building giving us tools and a positive frame of mind for the next challenge that comes along. Nobody escapes grief of some form. Reading a book on Hindu thoughts on life and I think there is a good point there. Sometimes we need to sacrafice little things in order to get to the greater good. L I do believe your Grandma Millie was a wise person.

Doing nothing doesn’t improve the situation, but some kind of action usually helps. Unfortunately even unhealthy actions help for a bit, but healthy things and thoughts not only help at the moment (even if only a little) they build and keep building giving us tools and a positive frame of mind for the next challenge that comes along.
Nobody escapes grief of some form.
Reading a book on Hindu thoughts on life and I think there is a good point there. Sometimes we need to sacrafice little things in order to get to the greater good.

L

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