Comments on: Happiness Bootcamp: Rise Out Of the Ashes of Grief… http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/09/25/happiness-bootcamp-rise-out-of-the-ashes-of-grief/ Happiness Boot Camp For Those In Transition Thu, 04 Dec 2008 22:32:24 +0000 By: Beth Waddel http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/09/25/happiness-bootcamp-rise-out-of-the-ashes-of-grief/#comment-24 Beth Waddel Wed, 17 Oct 2007 15:22:21 +0000 http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/09/25/happiness-bootcamp-rise-out-of-the-ashes-of-grief/#comment-24 DJ, Thank you so much for you wonderful (but not surprising observation) I want to move this post/comment to a section on the Phoenix. Beth DJ,
Thank you so much for you wonderful (but not surprising observation) I want to move this post/comment to a section on the Phoenix.

Beth

]]> By: DJ http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/09/25/happiness-bootcamp-rise-out-of-the-ashes-of-grief/#comment-22 DJ Tue, 16 Oct 2007 18:54:25 +0000 http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/09/25/happiness-bootcamp-rise-out-of-the-ashes-of-grief/#comment-22 Before the phoenix goes up in flames and turns to ashes, she has become tired, worn, and ready to start anew, with lessons already learned being embedded in her DNA. As a phoenix arises from the ashes, she becomes renewed, stronger, and more beautiful (inside and out) in the transition. She becomes ready to fly to new adventures. The phoenix can also use her tears to heal the wounds of slef and others. The metaphor of the phoenix is particularly apt. Before the phoenix goes up in flames and turns to ashes, she has become tired, worn, and ready to start anew, with lessons already learned being embedded in her DNA. As a phoenix arises from the ashes, she becomes renewed, stronger, and more beautiful (inside and out) in the transition. She becomes ready to fly to new adventures. The phoenix can also use her tears to heal the wounds of slef and others. The metaphor of the phoenix is particularly apt.

]]> By: Wahoo http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/09/25/happiness-bootcamp-rise-out-of-the-ashes-of-grief/#comment-17 Wahoo Sat, 06 Oct 2007 04:15:13 +0000 http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/09/25/happiness-bootcamp-rise-out-of-the-ashes-of-grief/#comment-17 Thank you for sharing! Thank you for sharing!

]]> By: JC http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/09/25/happiness-bootcamp-rise-out-of-the-ashes-of-grief/#comment-9 JC Fri, 28 Sep 2007 03:43:51 +0000 http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/09/25/happiness-bootcamp-rise-out-of-the-ashes-of-grief/#comment-9 You've come a long way baby!! Since I have done the VIA, What do I do with the scores? Thanks for all your good and hard work putting together this blog. You’ve come a long way baby!! Since I have done the VIA, What do I do with the scores? Thanks for all your good and hard work putting together this blog.

]]> By: Beth Waddel http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/09/25/happiness-bootcamp-rise-out-of-the-ashes-of-grief/#comment-8 Beth Waddel Wed, 26 Sep 2007 23:05:37 +0000 http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/09/25/happiness-bootcamp-rise-out-of-the-ashes-of-grief/#comment-8 Bill, The grief of losing a family is indeed one of the greatest of all griefs. Even though many divorces may be "necessary" the loss is still ever present. Having faith, knowing that kids will be kids, and continuing to be a dad is all we can do. In my experience both as a psychologist and as a divorced person, I have noticed that often it is the parent the children feel closest too, safest with, that gets the "brunt" of the hurt and the pain. My mantra then...I am the adult...I am responsible to "be there" as the secure one for these children. They get to "act out" that's a priviledge I, as the mature adult, do not have....Rats, huh? Techno Slut....okay, okay, Lorri and CW, thank you for your kind remarks. This is as the kids say "toadally" new territory for me. I am learning blogging right along with you. Fortunately I had an excellent teachers, thanks kathy and Carol, but it sure is a fun experience...eh? That bright light is always there, Lorri, even in these oh, so tough times. There's a bad joke about a railroad tunnel and seeing the light at the end of the tunnel...the joke is the hope that the light is NOT a freight train... It isn't. Beth Bill,
The grief of losing a family is indeed one of the greatest of all griefs. Even though many divorces may be “necessary” the loss is still ever present. Having faith, knowing that kids will be kids, and continuing to be a dad is all we can do.
In my experience both as a psychologist and as a divorced person, I have noticed that often it is the parent the children feel closest too, safest with, that gets the “brunt” of the hurt and the pain.

My mantra then…I am the adult…I am responsible to “be there” as the secure one for these children. They get to “act out” that’s a priviledge I, as the mature adult, do not have….Rats, huh?

Techno Slut….okay, okay, Lorri and CW, thank you for your kind remarks. This is as the kids say “toadally” new territory for me. I am learning blogging right along with you. Fortunately I had an excellent teachers, thanks kathy and Carol, but it sure is a fun experience…eh?

That bright light is always there, Lorri, even in these oh, so tough times. There’s a bad joke about a railroad tunnel and seeing the light at the end of the tunnel…the joke is the hope that the light is NOT a freight train…

It isn’t.

Beth

]]> By: LS http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/09/25/happiness-bootcamp-rise-out-of-the-ashes-of-grief/#comment-6 LS Wed, 26 Sep 2007 12:36:09 +0000 http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/09/25/happiness-bootcamp-rise-out-of-the-ashes-of-grief/#comment-6 Lady Boots, I know nothing about blogs, so lets hope I don't mess this up! Grief on the other hand seems to have been a life long friend of mine (saving the details for another day), but there is and always has been a bright light out there in the dark, shining brightly. I think the bright light is all the positives just waiting to be reached for. This will be good stuff!!! Thanks Lady Lorri Lady Boots,

I know nothing about blogs, so lets hope I don’t mess this up!
Grief on the other hand seems to have been a life long friend of mine (saving the details for another day), but there is and always has been a bright light out there in the dark, shining brightly. I think the bright light is all the positives just waiting to be reached for.

This will be good stuff!!!

Thanks Lady

Lorri

]]> By: CW http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/09/25/happiness-bootcamp-rise-out-of-the-ashes-of-grief/#comment-4 CW Tue, 25 Sep 2007 20:57:32 +0000 http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/09/25/happiness-bootcamp-rise-out-of-the-ashes-of-grief/#comment-4 Congratulations on the beautiful "Phoenix-blog" rising out of the ashes.........Way to go girl! Congratulations on the beautiful “Phoenix-blog” rising out of the ashes………Way to go girl!

]]> By: BC http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/09/25/happiness-bootcamp-rise-out-of-the-ashes-of-grief/#comment-3 BC Tue, 25 Sep 2007 18:28:10 +0000 http://donotgrievealone.com/2007/09/25/happiness-bootcamp-rise-out-of-the-ashes-of-grief/#comment-3 My, Beth, but you have gone through a LOT and have a lot to grieve about. I feel a little silly grieving over a divorce and the "loss" of three of my children, who have shut me out because of the divorce (the fourth, though, is my saving grace!). I really like your emphasis on positive psychology. I'm learning a bit about that, and mindfulness, as I forge ahead. But it's hard when three really important people in your life just vanish. I remember all the good times we've had, and I'm left to wonder whether we'll make any more good memories in the future. So I'm looking forward to seeing more about positive approaches to grief. I'm glad you're starting this site. I hope it turns out to be a great community! Thanks, Bill My, Beth, but you have gone through a LOT and have a lot to grieve about. I feel a little silly grieving over a divorce and the “loss” of three of my children, who have shut me out because of the divorce (the fourth, though, is my saving grace!).

I really like your emphasis on positive psychology. I’m learning a bit about that, and mindfulness, as I forge ahead. But it’s hard when three really important people in your life just vanish. I remember all the good times we’ve had, and I’m left to wonder whether we’ll make any more good memories in the future.

So I’m looking forward to seeing more about positive approaches to grief. I’m glad you’re starting this site. I hope it turns out to be a great community!

Thanks,
Bill

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